Question

In yesterday's guided meditation we were supposed to feel compassion for a lonely guy in the corner shooting smack. Fair enough. Then later we find out he has two kids who he decides to murder. Why should I feel compassion for him? If he has two kids he has no right to be shooting up with smack. He deserves a slap and being dragged to a rehabilitation center, that would be compassion. It might help if your comments on this would broaden in my understanding.

Answer

Whenever we think of people who are doing something like this, we want to think of their mental state. What is the mental state of somebody who is so lonely, so lonely, so lonely, that they're sitting in a corner shooting up. What's their mental state? This is what we're having compassion for. Not the action, but compassion for their mental state. This is somebody who is sick, this is somebody who definitely needs to be put in a rehabilitation center - but slapped? They don't even know what they're doing. What good does slapping do? It seems that you are expressing your own aggressions because you don't like seeing what you are seeing. Help the person to get to a rehab place, that's fine, that's acting out of compassion, absolutely. But hating the person, not having compassion for them, that is your problem. You are holding on to anger because you don't like seeing Dukkha in the world.

How many people right now, this moment, in the middle of some slum somewhere, or in a nice suburban home, is there a person, rich or poor, shooting up? How many right now? A few thousand? More? I don't know. Are they sane in the mind? Are they intelligent people? No, they have a sickness in the mind. They are trying to escape life through a way that might kill them or send them crazy, they are sick in the mind. If you can't open your heart to this person then you're missing what we're teaching here. You want to open your heart for this person because there's sickness in the mind. Also to understand that, yes, indeed, people who are sick like this, they will go a step farther. They may kill their children. This is why we have police, this is why we have courts, this is why we have laws, all out of compassion, trying desperately to stop these people, trying to stop them not because we hate them, but because we see they're sick and they might hurt society.

So you want to feel compassion - the question here is "why should I feel compassion for them?" - because otherwise you suffer. You suffer with your anger; you suffer with your aversion towards seeing something that is out there in life. If you think it shouldn't be there, you suffer. All of you have heard the Monopoly game story that I tell, and then when it's over I say: "Dukkha is part of the rules. It doesn't matter whether you like it or not, it doesn't matter if you agree with it or not, it doesn't even matter whether you know about it or not. Dukkha, unsatisfactoriness, is part of life's rules." If you can understand more about it, then we can play the game of life better. But as long as you have aversion to Dukkha in a form of somebody shooting up, then you're going to suffer. You're not accepting what is part of life's rules.

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