This borders on an area that we don't do in group discussion but I will do it slightly. Okay, compassion for each other, wishing to help each other, trying to grow together, not just wanting, wanting, wanting something to satisfy, "me, me, me". These are all little ways which it would be better to have a relationship of love between a man and a woman. Caring for each other rather than wanting, wanting.
It is taught within Buddhism that people can grow together spiritually. Rosemary and I are an example of that. She brought home the Yoga book, I didn't want it. She found the first Buddhist monastery in the newspaper, I wasn't that interested. But then there are other times, I wanted to move to Thailand, she didn't. So in this way we've actually helped each other, pushed each other a little this way or that way. How many times it was that I didn't really feel like meditating; "Oh, come on, it's good for you!" So this is where people can actually grow together and when you are growing together then that's the best type of love in that sense.
This is a bit like "Left Foot, Right Foot". When you walk, does one foot always stay in front of the other? Or do they alternate? To walk properly, you have to alternate your legs. Good relationships also alternate. Sometimes one person is a bit in front, sometimes the other person is a bit in front, and there is a sharing on a more balanced level.