The answer is similar to tightening strings. Look at all the Dukkha you created by your strings being too tight. And have a good, kind, wise, spiritual friend, a Kalyanamittato help you balance.
Now when we think of strings - what usually comes to mind is a guitar. I was 13, 14 years old and I learned to play the guitar. The first thing I had to learn was how to tune the guitar. It has six strings, you turn the little dial this way and that way, you have to hold the strings just right and match two strings together and see if they sound the same. Six strings - for me it was hard enough. I figured it out after a while, I could tune my guitar and that was fine. But I had to practice quite a lot with tuning my guitar. I would make it a little too tight - ding. Too hard. I would make it too soft - dung, too soft. I had to learn, I had to practice tuning the strings. A guitar has six.
Think of those people who fix pianos? How much is it, 108 strings in a piano? I don't know. Good grief, I saw a guy come in once to fix my mother's piano, I mean he was there a few hours. I could do the guitar in a few seconds, he is a piano expert and it still takes him a few hours. Wow. So tuning the piano with 100 or so strings is much harder than tuning a guitar.
How many strings do we have in here? Thousands of strings! If we get too focused on how many we'll just get depressed and give up, right? But the fact is that I could learn the guitar string, that piano guy could learn how to tune the piano, and in Buddhism it is taught, yes, we can learn to tune our "strings". And many of you have already learned how to tune some, and many of you can tune pretty good.
There are a lot more there to tune but it is just a matter of practice, practice, practice, getting good advice, living and associating with other people who have their strings in a good way already, then we have somebody we can watch. "How did they handle that? Oh, they just dropped their dish. What do they do, do they swear or rave, or do they just clean it up peacefully and then get another dish?" So when we are around other people who have strings that are tuned better than ours, then we have somebody to watch and admire. Again we are talking about a Kalyanamitta, a good, kind, wise, spiritual friend who can help us by their own example. That will help us to tighten or loosen our strings, whatever is needed.