Question

Sometimes I feel like there are so many topics I would like to reflect upon; plus new things in the talks, and Questions and Answers, that I would also like to reflect upon, that it can seem a bit overwhelming. Any advice on keeping things simple?

Answer

In this practice, with all the tools that were given to you, it's like a toolbox that's bigger than any carpenter has. It isn't simple, sorry! The Buddha gave us so many tools. The Buddha, though, knew exactly which tool was for each person. Ah! The Buddha could keep it more simple. Maybe somebody only needed Death reflection. There's a beautiful story of a woman that describes how all she needed was Death reflection. For three years that's all she did. He taught her a second time, at the end of three years, she became partly enlightened. That was simple. I'm sorry, we're not the Buddha! We can't make it simple. So we're throwing out a lot of techniques, then you can see which ones fit for yourself. That way, every one of you is going to get something that works.

You're also going to get a lot of tools that work, not just one specific one. You're going to get a lot. So the question is, "How can I sort these; how can I work with them, and not get overwhelmed by having so many that fit for me?"

Some people like to prepare a whole week of meditations. How much breath awareness they will do; how much Compassion/Lovingkindness; how much Death reflection; and so on. They like to prepare a whole week and then see what happens. I mentioned earlier about the 50/50 starting point, 60/40, or whatever. By writing everything down, you can see what happens to follow along with that, and see how it would fit for yourself.

You're going to have to experiment. Some meditation techniques, like the Compassion/Lovingkindness technique, can be done everyday by virtually every one of you. It won't hurt, and that'd be fine. However, Death reflection, if you do that every day, you'll probably drive yourself nuts! A little bit, you know, one or two sentences "short form reflection" we call it, fine; but not to do a whole hour of Death reflection every day, that could be too heavy.

So, some of the techniques can be "too much", depressing, if you do too much of one side. Some can get too "high", e.g., if you do Sympathetic Joy for an hour every day, you might get too high, because you're not balancing the practice. If you think too much of the happiness, you go too far that way; if you think too much of the Dukkha, you go too far that way. That's why we're teaching more of a balanced practice here.

Even inside the Compassion/Lovingkindness meditation, you need a balance. You look at the Dukkha a little, you give them a good wish; you look at the Dukkha, you give them a good wish. If you only look at the Dukkha, it gets "too heavy"; if you only give a happy wish, it gets "too light". This is where you're going to have to work it out a bit. If you do write everything down, and look at the techniques more clearly, make a schedule for yourself, etc., you might see that that could help you to be a little more "simple".

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