We can use reflections on the eight worldly dhammas. This seems to be blame for being different. And, unfortunately, it tends to increase as you change and become "not normal" in the eyes of the world.
Often people want us to be spontaneous and to just act on any impulse that arises. But as we become wiser and understand the results of our Kamma, we realize that it is okay to take some time to make decisions, and that it is actually showing Compassion to ourselves. So, we may appear to be slow, but I would rather be slow and not sorry, than be spontaneous and allow past conditioning to spontaneously take me to places that I would later regret. So, yes, we may appear different as we begin to practice because we start to see things in a different way.
I was just reading recently the famous words of the Buddha, "I do not argue with the world, the world argues with me." The Buddha also got blamed because he saw happiness and the causes of it in a different way. He understood what the true causes of happiness were; he understood the true causes of suffering and Dukkha; and he would teach what was true and not what people often wanted to hear. So we will be judged, we will get blamed. Even the Buddha got blamed. We can reflect on the fact that even the Buddha, who was apparently perfect, free of all greed, hatred and ignorance, also got blamed, and then ask ourselves, "What of me?" It helps us to have a little more Equanimity towards this pair, praise and blame, because there is nobody in the world who is not blamed. These are the words of the Buddha from the scriptures: "Speaking much, one is blamed, speaking little, one is blamed, there is no one in the world who is unblamed."
So it really doesn't depend on what those who judge us, want us to be a certain way, but it is actually more important for ourselves to be who we want to be, because keeping to your own priorities, keeping to your own values, is important to you and you will get the Kamma from that.
And, as we understand the truth and what is valuable to ourselves, we may have such an unshakable confidence in the way that we are going, that we may seem a little closed to going in a different way, especially if it is in what we perceive to be an unbeneficial way. We want to be able to be open to the extent where we consider, as the Buddha encourages us, "Is it beneficial for myself or others? Will it bring Dukkha for myself or others, or both, now or in the future?" After we have considered this, if someone we are close to suggests doing something which we perceive will bring Dukkha to ourselves or others or to both, now or in the future, then that is okay to say, No, because we are the owner of our own Kamma, and they are the owners of theirs.