We do have what we call wise aversion. Aversion is big word which includes anger and fear, it's not liking, we don't like something. We can have wisdom with not liking something that is unbeneficial, but we don't personally have to suffer with the aversion.
When a person is angry, when you're angry, really angry, you're suffering. But when it comes to the idea of wanting to change something that is unbeneficial, if we have wisdom and we have compassion, that's fine. Wise aversion to things that are unbeneficial is actually part of compassion; they can work together. Now, when you have wisdom and compassion working together, you're going to have all the energy that you need, and you're going to be able to use the right tools with a balanced mind. When a person gets angry, they can get too caught up in their emotions and when you are too caught up in emotions, you may not be able to see things clearly.
A teaching that helps us with this, is being aware of the hindrances as they arise. The technique of mental noting is helpful in this awareness. When we start to observe our thoughts and when we start to understand when anger is present, can we just try to step back and note that anger is there, and accept it? Then we are not getting caught in thoughts of, "it is my anger", but instead we just see it objectively for what it is, "anger is there". We just try to note the anger as anger, we note to ourselves "anger, anger." Then we take this technique another step further in order to understand that it is suffering for ourselves, because I can tell you, "Don't be angry, it's not good for you." But, that doesn't really help you, because you have to believe me, right? And, sometimes you don't believe me.
So, we have to observe the anger when it's in our own mind, try to note it for what it is, "anger, anger" - that's a special technique that helps. And then we'd like to examine it, "What is anger?" You can do this by turning your attention away from what you are angry towards, and try to focus on the anger itself. "What is anger?" Ask yourself this question, then bring your attention to your body and run your attention down through the body and try to feel how your body feels.
At this time, you are focusing on the Law of Cause and Effect, which will help bring you to the understanding that when you have anger in the mind, the body feels like this. Usually there's tightness in the stomach. Usually there's tightness in the chest. Perhaps the breath is faster. Perhaps the heart is beating faster. So, bring the attention to the reactions in the body instead of being angry.
In this way, you are examining the energy behind the story, instead of feeding the story and the anger. You're observing anger as it is, and trying to understand its nature. You're seeing the results of it in your own body. And, as you start to see this, it helps compassion to arise for yourself; you see that when you have these angry thoughts, you're suffering. Try to do this technique. It helps to bring up compassion for yourself and it's important to have compassion for yourself before you can really have it for others.