Look a bit closer. Look a bit closer at that conceited person who thinks that they're perfect, who feels good, who doesn't seem to have any problems. If you look a bit closer, you're going to see problems. You're going to see very dramatic problems. You may often see that they're expressing that everything's fine, but their conceit actually covers up a lot of inferiority complexes, a lot of negativities, and so on.
The ability to see this is largely dependent on your ability to see your own mental states. To understand when you go off into the anger, the fear, the grief, into the greed, the jealousy, whatever. It's going to depend, a lot, on how well you've seen your own mental states that then determines how well you can recognize other people's mental states.
Now, if a person's not enlightened, they need compassion. There is no reason for you to not give compassion to anyone who is not enlightened. They have some Dukkha. Whether you see it or not, doesn't really matter. But if a person is really conceited, take a closer look and you're going to see there is pain. All you have to do is to identify that there is some pain, you don't even have to know what it is. Just try to identify them as a person who has some pain, then it's easier to open your heart to that person.
Keep in mind that if you find it difficult to feel compassion for others, then you're holding back. Do you actually want to hold back, do you want your heart to be closed? Or would you rather add that person, another human being who has their own Dukkha, would you like to add them into your heart?
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