We just covered that a lot a minute ago. But this is the other way around. This is the person thinking, "I'm not sure I trust my partner. How can I make the trust stronger? How can I increase it?" Okay, because the only reason you would want to increase it is because it is low, and you feel it's not so good to have low trust in your partner, then you want to increase it. Now, if your partner's done something that hurt you, was negative in some way, then it's not going to be easy for you to increase your trust in them until they change, as I did mention a few minutes ago. So it really depends a lot on them changing.
Now, if they actually haven't done anything that's harmful and you have no reason not to trust them, but you have some feeling of distrust, maybe like jealousy. Say, you've gone somewhere with your partner and you've gone to the bathroom. Then you come back and see your partner talking to an attractive person, "Oh my gosh!" And jealousy bounces up real quick. You go over to them and the other person walks away at the same time. Your partner turns to you and says, "Hi honey, how are you?" But you go, "Don't you call me honey. What were you doing with them?" And your partners says, "Nothing. They were just asking for directions about how to get to the bank." And maybe you don't trust them. Okay, this would be something then that you've invented. You can't prove it. You've invented it.
In this example, you've lowered your trust because you think your partner has done something wrong. Okay, it would now be helpful to reflect about your partner's good qualities. Reflect in the following way, "Has your partner ever done that before? Has your partner ever disappeared with another person? Has your partner ever hurt you in any way?" And if your answers are no, no, no, then maybe it's okay to trust that your partner was just giving directions to the bank.
Now, you might change that idea if you see them with the same girl or with the same guy in the future. But if it only happens once and disappears, then it's helpful for you to reflect more wisely about your partner's good qualities, about how faithful your partner has been, so that you can just let go of that silly little jealousy that just kind of bounces up in so many people's heads.
Reflecting on your partner's good qualities can often bring you more trust in your partner. Realizing how fortunate you are for having somebody who is so nice to you.