Sometimes you have to say, "Stop." Sometimes you actually have to tell somebody, "Stop." This is what the police and courts and lawyers and the justice system are all about. Sometimes, somebody has to say, "You have to stop. We have to separate you from everyone else. You're causing too much trouble for others." This isn't so easy in a family world within a house, but, quite frankly, there is a lot of abuse going on inside homes. There is a lot of pain inside homes that shouldn't really be there, and if one person inside a home is causing problems for many others, then the others may have to take a stance. We call it "drawing a line," in a sense explaining to the person, "No, you have to stop doing that here. We don't want it here. It's causing harm. Either you change or else you have to leave."
Sometimes they're not the one who will leave. Sometimes it's you who has to leave. But this is just part of life, that everyone is not going to be peaceful, loving and kind. Even if you come and do our retreats, you're not going to be able to make everyone peaceful, loving and kind. It just doesn't work. Sometimes, the Compassion that we teach is not soft, gentle, easy, kind. No, sometimes it's very strong. Sometimes it says, "Stop that."
In our retreats, we average 40 people every month. Sometimes there is one person who wants to do their own thing, who wants to cause a disturbance during the retreat. We have to kick them out. It's just very simple. We are going to care for the 39 other people because they're the serious people who want harmony and want to learn. So the one person simply gets kicked out. We have rules up there. It takes you about 15 minutes to read all the rules, but it works. They're just simple guidelines for the center. Now, unfortunately, especially in a family situation, it can cause deeper pain, so it might be there for years and years and maybe for the rest of your life. But sometimes you just have to tell someone to stop.