Moral Dread

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Source / Teacher
Day
Index
Question
Special Retreat Germany September 2005
Steve
4
10
Could you, please, talk more about the importance of the Triple Gem for balance in the practice and when to use it in daily life?
Ref: 2005.09.x.04.10
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2005
Rosemary
7
2
How can one deal better with the feeling of failure?
Ref: 2005.09.x.07.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2007
Steve
3
11
Comparing the "Two Virtues that Protect the World" - Moral Shame and Moral Dread - with heedfulness: how are they similar, and how are they different, in our daily life practice?
Ref: 2007.01.x.03.11
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2007
Steve
5
1
How do we work with feelings of guilt?
Ref: 2007.01.x.05.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2007
Steve
5
4
I'm feeling sad about the ongoing large amount of aversive responses I have to the world around me. Could you please talk in more depth about what is going on in the "positive attachment to aversion" example mentioned in the "holding on to fire" talk, in the 10-day retreat. What is the process leading to that identity "it's me; it's mine" - feeling the right to be irritated, annoyed or angry. Is it just a way out of Dukkha, found when things went astray in youth, then conditioned in and by examples? Why do we sometimes find pleasure in pain - a true perversion? It seems like an addiction, giving a rush of excitement; making life exciting. It can seem like the whole personality is based on aversive responses and very difficult to get the necessary Compassionate-Loving kind reactions, before aversion pops in. Are there more insight methods? Or is it just continuing to lay down the conditioning via Compassion/Lovingkindness meditation and actions to recondition the mind? The intellect knows, but behavior doesn't.
Ref: 2007.01.x.05.04
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2007
Rosemary
2
2
Could you please talk about self-control?
Ref: 2007.01.x.02.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2017
Steve
12
17
Is there such a thing as guilt?
Ref: 2017.07.x.12.17
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2017
Rosemary
15
3
Would you please talk a bit more about spiritual Dukkha?
Ref: 2017.07.x.15.03
Audio answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2008
Rosemary
2
8
As I recall, Steve has stated that if Moral Shame and Moral Dread are perfected, it could be the same as being enlightened. Could you please explain how the perfection or development of these two things lead to the necessary eradication of all desires, aversions and ignorance of reality that is necessary for enlightenment?
Ref: 2008.01.x.02.08
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2008
Steve
5
5
How to work on Moral Shame and Moral Dread?
Ref: 2008.01.x.05.05
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2003
Steve
4
4
Sometimes when I make a mistake, I feel Moral Shame, but then no Moral Dread. What can I do to open up to Moral Dread, so that in the future I will try harder to not make a similar mistake again?
Ref: 2003.01.x.04.04
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2010
Rosemary
9
7
If we did something selfish and afterwards reflect about it with the wish to be more humble, and develop Moral Shame and Moral Dread, but had difficulty feeling them, what could be the reason please?
Ref: 2010.07.x.09.07
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2019
Rosemary
17
12
In our societies there is a concept of guilt, in Buddhism we talk about Kamma that comes from cause and effects. Is there something like guilt in the world or is this just not seeing the whole picture?
Ref: 2019.07.x.17.12
Audio answer
Berlin QA September 2008
Rosemary
8
6
I believe we become wiser by getting older. What do you think about this?
Ref: 2008.09.x.08.06
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
11
13
How can we develop humility?
Ref: 2018.07.x.11.13
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
13
9
How do I know if I have enough compassion for myself? Is there a feeling?
Ref: 2018.07.x.13.09
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
14
18
What is moral dread versus moral shame?
Ref: 2018.07.x.14.18
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
13
15
What is the difference between wise aversion and the regular type of aversion?
Ref: 2018.07.x.13.15
Audio answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2007
Steve
8
15
Connecting Moral Shame, forgiveness and moral disgust, is it necessary to first forgive the act of moral shame in order to build a more pure form of moral disgust? Or are the two not related?
Ref: 2007.07.x.08.15
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2007
Rosemary
7
1
Christianity gave Western culture a huge guilt complex which still lingers in the current scientific era. Please compare guilt with Moral Shame and perhaps explaining how a milder form of emotion, embarrassment, fits into this?
Ref: 2007.07.x.07.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2007
Steve
5
7
Can you please talk about Moral Shame and Forgiveness, and how they might be related?
Ref: 2007.07.x.05.07
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2007
Steve
8
1
Failure seems to be central to our self-doubt/insecurities and negative self-images, and yet it is through failure and making mistakes that we are able to learn and grow. Can you talk more about having a balanced view of our past failures?
Ref: 2007.07.x.08.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2007
Steve
8
7
Please suggest ways to work with aversion towards the non-verbal attitude of another person? e.g., on the walking track, a person is restless, agitated and unconcentrated. I wish them Compassionate/Lovingkindness, however their behavior continues. I then start to feel restless, too, then aversion, and a whole hindrance attack ensues. I also notice this problem with people who have controlling personalities.
Ref: 2007.07.x.08.07
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2007
Rosemary
6
9
Please explain the relationship between Moral Shame and Moral Dread?
Ref: 2007.09.x.06.09
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2003
Steve
8
2
I read in a book that you can "grow into" the virtues which are included in the Five Precepts. It was described that if you start feeling resistance within, to break any of them gradually. Is this comparable to Moral Dread?
Ref: 2003.09.x.08.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2003
Rosemary
6
6
What is an unpleasant spiritual feeling? Meditation pain? I guess Moral Shame? Could you please talk more about it?
Ref: 2003.09.x.06.06
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Steve
7
12
Is it important to confess unwise actions to others or is it enough to confess them inside ourselves?
Ref: 2000.01.x.07.12
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Rosemary
5
2
Please how is it possible to tell the difference between wise caution and habitual fear? When fear is so universal and deep, yet wise caution can protect us.
Ref: 2000.01.x.05.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2002
Steve
8
6
I got in a bit of a tangle when doing last night's meditation, concerned with when I get praise/gain, etc. but really want blame/loss, etc. Can you talk about this a bit, is it referring to feeling guilt of some sort?
Ref: 2002.01.x.08.06
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2002
Rosemary
2
2
How does one work skillfully with regret, that is, both past regrets, and fear of having regrets in the future?
Ref: 2002.01.x.02.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2004
Steve
8
8
Humility. I have heard both Steve and Rosemary speak several times about humility yet never use the word. At least that is what my interpretation of what Steve and Rosemary were speaking about. It is not one of the Paramis either, so what is the place of humility in the overall picture of compassionate understanding?
Ref: 2004.01.x.08.08
Written answer