Paramis

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Source / Teacher
Day
Index
Question
Special Retreat Thailand July 2001
Rosemary
2
1
When we talk about a close spiritual friend, is that specifically a Buddhist meditator friend, or can it be a friend who's simply trying to cultivate themselves spiritually, whatever the tradition? That is, spending time with people actively involved with spiritual development and compassion but from a Christian perspective.
Ref: 2001.07.x.02.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2001
Rosemary
7
4
There are the Seven Factors of Enlightenment, the Ten Paramis, and the Noble Eightfold Path with a bit of overlap, similarities and differences. Can you please give advice on what to develop first or how to deal with these separate qualities?
Ref: 2001.07.x.07.04
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2001
Steve
3
6
Could you please talk more about ways of asking ourselves Wise Questions, in order to lessen attachments and develop wisdom?
Ref: 2001.07.x.03.06
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2001
Steve
5
2
How important is it to have a teacher? In the meaning, to have something like a personal teacher. Lots of practitioners say this person, so and so, is my teacher, with a specific name.
Ref: 2001.07.x.05.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2014
Steve
14
5
How can the Parami of Wisdom be reborn? To me it seems to be the Parami that has the strongest foundation in the experiences of the actual life. How can this be available in the next life?
Ref: 2014.09.x.14.05
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2014
Steve
12
16
We are taught that every living being has the potential to free its mind, does that mean that an ant has free choice to make good Kamma or not?
Ref: 2014.09.x.12.16
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2014
Rosemary
15
3
How can I develop more morality? Can you give some examples on how to reflect on morality?
Ref: 2014.09.x.15.03
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2014
Steve
12
15
What is reincarnation? What kind of our body-mind process is reincarnated? Do I have to believe in reincarnation to be a Buddhist?
Ref: 2014.09.x.12.15
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2017
Steve
14
3
What are the different levels of the Paramis, can you give examples?
Ref: 2017.07.x.14.03
Audio answer
- Paramis
- Stronger
Special Retreat Germany July 2017
Steve
18
13
What other systematic ways are there to reflect on the relationship between the Brahma Viharas and the Paramis?
Ref: 2017.07.x.18.13
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2017
Steve
16
16
What is the difference between Patience and Equanimity and why do we need Patience when we can have Equanimity?
Ref: 2017.07.x.16.16
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2017
Steve
18
17
The reflection on the Paramis also seems to work in the way: How does sense-desire threaten the development of Generosity, Morality, Renunciation, etc. (Yes! very good) Is it a good practice to work on the hindrances or for the matter by crossing any of the list, to see how they work or work against each other?
Ref: 2017.07.x.18.17
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2015
Steve
16
12
If I heard Rosemary right, she said third stage of enlightenment for non-returners, so what's happening if a person dies in the third stage? They are not fully enlightened and aren't returning?
Ref: 2015.07.x.16.12
Audio answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2008
Steve
8
11
Sometimes it seems to me that I am not progressing much and even stagnate at times. How can I judge others or my own personal growth in Dhamma.
Ref: 2008.01.x.08.11
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2003
Steve
3
4
How can I find a good standard to see the growth of some Paramis and to see which one needs to be developed more, so that I can avoid a competitive mind or comparing with others?
Ref: 2003.01.x.03.04
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2009
Steve
8
1
How can we learn to be more truthful to ourselves?
Ref: 2009.01.x.08.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2009
Rosemary
2
1
How can I try to be less of a perfectionist?
Ref: 2009.01.x.02.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2011
Rosemary
7
5
How can I work with difficult people who have decided they don't like me? I did compassion and lovingkindness for them and for myself, but the jealousy or unsatisfactoriness is still there. And it is very hard to be detached.
Ref: 2011.07.x.07.05
Audio answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2010
Rosemary
6
5
I have seen the unbeneficial effects of planning on my body. Can you give us advice on how to plan for the future wisely?
Ref: 2010.07.x.06.05
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2009
Steve
4
2
Can you name the Paramis and explain what they mean.
Ref: 2009.09.x.04.02
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
17
9
Does the order of the Paramis have any meaning?
Ref: 2018.07.x.17.09
Audio answer
- Paramis
- Generosity
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
11
3
What does perfect Equanimity look like?
Ref: 2018.07.x.11.03
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
11
10
What if a Bodhisattva breaks his vow and becomes an Arahant, would he or she know about this and what could be a possible result?
Ref: 2018.07.x.11.10
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Rosemary
12
4
Having a mind pre-disposed to perfectionism, what is the best rate to set the dedication to perfect the Paramis without slipping into the perfectionism mind state?
Ref: 2018.07.x.12.04
Audio answer
Special Retreat Germany July 2018
Steve
14
11
One subject of morality is: "Do not lie", what is the reason that there is another Parami truthfulness as well? What is the difference between these two?
Ref: 2018.07.x.14.11
Audio answer
Special Retreat Australia April 2005
Rosemary
6
2
Is the order of the Paramis important?
Ref: 2005.04.x.06.02
Written answer
- Paramis
Special Retreat Australia April 2005
Rosemary
6
3
Can we work on all the Paramis at the same time or should we focus on a few?
Ref: 2005.04.x.06.03
Written answer
- Paramis
Special Retreat Australia April 2005
Steve
8
3
How can we grow in resolution?
Ref: 2005.04.x.08.03
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2007
Rosemary
6
5
There are so many techniques now. Which one to use in which situation or to counter certain negativities in the mind, like the hindrances?
Ref: 2007.09.x.06.05
Written answer
Special Retreat Germany September 2003
Steve
5
8
Please speak about Stream-Entry, the conditions for it and the effects of it. What are the steps on the way and how do you recognize that you have achieved stream-entry? How possible is it for lay people in the West to become a Stream-Enterer?
Ref: 2003.09.x.05.08
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand July 2009
Rosemary
9
1
As a kid/young teenager I sometimes stole money from my parents' wallet. How can I make up for that now?
Ref: 2009.07.x.09.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Rosemary
8
4
Would you advise to do the Re-dedication wish, to develop the Paramis as much as I can so I can be of most benefit for myself and others, in the beginning of every meditation in the daily practice?
Ref: 2000.01.x.08.04
Written answer
- Equanimity
- Paramis
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Steve
7
4
Can you please give some explanation about the Paramis Truthfulness and Morality? What do they mean in Buddhism, what is important to consider about them?
Ref: 2000.01.x.07.04
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Rosemary
3
4
What causes, in a Buddhist thinking, bring me to Wat Kow Tahm?
Ref: 2000.01.x.03.04
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Rosemary
5
3
How do we work with the achieving mind, to balance it and to put it to good use?
Ref: 2000.01.x.05.03
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand 1999-2000
Rosemary
5
9
Would you like to give a numbered list of the contents of the tool box?
Ref: 2000.01.x.05.09
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2002
Steve
3
7
According to the scriptures, many people became fully enlightened during the Buddha's lifetime, is it more difficult today?
Ref: 2002.01.x.03.07
Written answer
- Buddha
- Paramis
Special Retreat Thailand January 2002
Steve
5
3
Could you please explain more about the Paramis Reflection last night? I found it difficult to consider how much or how much more I have of a certain quality. Could you maybe give some examples? And do you mean with considering how I feel about this growth, if I am content with it or do I feel I could have done more, or how the quality enriches my life?
Ref: 2002.01.x.05.03
Written answer
- Paramis
- Reflection
Special Retreat Thailand January 2002
Rosemary
9
1
Moments of transition: before an interview, before the meals, before the ending of the retreat. Here I spend all this time trying to cultivate mindfulness, but when I really need it, I almost always lose it. What can we do to take care of these moments of transition?
Ref: 2002.01.x.09.01
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2004
Rosemary
7
3
Where did the Buddha to be, the Bodhisattva, go to for refuge? How did he balance his wisdom with faith, confidence?
Ref: 2004.01.x.07.03
Written answer
Special Retreat Thailand January 2004
Steve
8
13
Is development of our Paramis depending on Right Understanding and Right Attitude, Right Effort, or what else? Is it not when one is practicing meditation for long times it comes automatically with? What can we do and focus on?
Ref: 2004.01.x.08.13
Written answer
- Noble Eightfold Path
- Paramis